The Role of Feng Shui in Accepting What Is…

silhouette of woman in sitting meditation with encouraging words around her


Overall, I believe that we’re living on Earth to expand our souls and to raise the vibration of our collective consciousness, the container for “all that is.” We do this through the ways we live our lives and how we handle our life challenges. Ultimately, I think we’re meant to be happy and that we’re intended to take care of each other and the planet, including relieving the suffering of others.

Simultaneously, it can be quite challenging for some people to be happy while others are sick, sad, in grief, in harm’s way. You might find yourself confronting your values as you experience the daily contrast on the global stage. Sometimes I hear “How can I be happy when there’s so much suffering in the world?”

The Work is on Oneself

The feng shui role is this is to look within and do what you can, from where you are, to authentically live as good a life as you can. Set a great example for others. Daily, you have opportunities to improve with every choice you make and every response you provide. Since your environment reflects your life, adjusting your environment regularly to raise the energy will help you to shift your life.


It’s my understanding that “the work” is always on oneself. Your job is to cultivate as much joy and happiness within yourself because that is also how you help others. You can only give away what you’ve cultivated within yourself. So, even if you think you appear happy on the outside, yet you’re holding deep anger, grief, sadness, frustration, etc. on the inside, your deep feelings and collective experiences drive your default reactions.

Scales of Emotions are Similar

Your job is to release the low feelings, make peace with your past, and gently move up the emotional scale. David Hawkins wrote about this in his book Power vs. Force (Hay House 1995, 1998, 2002) and Abraham-Hicks wrote about it in Ask and It Is Given (Hay House, 2004) Below is a table that compares the levels of emotion from low to high from these two resources, as you move from bottom to top. They are more similar than they are different.

Note that neutrality, trust and boredom are the dividing points between the lower and higher emotions. In Hawkins scale, Acceptance is correlated with Forgiveness. I matched this with Hopefulness on the Abraham-Hicks scale. On the lower end, not every emotion matches on both scales. That’s OK. What’s important to note are the higher and lower emotions in general. Anything and everything you do to move yourself up the scale, to reach the highest default emotion that you can, helps you and the world around you.

Power vs. Force/Hawkins Ask and It Is Given/Abraham-Hicks
Enlightenment Joy/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
Peace/Bliss Passion
Joy/Serenity Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
Love/Reverence Positive Expectation/Belief
Reason/Understanding Optimism
Acceptance/Forgiveness Hopefulness
Willingness/Optimism Contentment
Neutrality/Trust Boredom
Courage/Affirmation Pessimism
Pride/Scorn Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
Anger/Hate Overwhelm
Desire/Craving Disappointment
Fear/Anxiety Doubt
Grief/Regret Worry
Apathy/Despair Blame
Guilt/Blame Discouragement
Shame/Humiliation Anger

In both system systems, Anger is a higher-level emotion than fear. When you are angry, you’re also in position to act decisively. This is harder to do when you’re in fear.

Use Acceptance to Move Up the Emotional Scale

It takes time to move up the emotional scale, particularly if you carry a lot of pain, guilt, shame, blame, etc. The good news is that it can happen. Acceptance of your situation and that of others is a great starting point. Acceptance is recognition of the way things are. It’s not about assigning blame, responsibility or holding anyone accountable. Acceptance is recognizing that contrasting experiences are always underway and that it’s OK.

When I was in India earlier this year, our first driver from the airport to the hotel indicated that acceptance of where everyone is in their lives is what makes it easier to live each day. Part of acceptance of the beggars on the street is recognizing that their lives are as valid and as sacred as those who are much better off. They’re having a very different human experience. When you come across uncomfortable situations, notice what feelings are evoked and what parts of yourself are tapped. These are the areas that need attention.

Once you accept situations as they are, you can help others from a place of love vs. from sadness, guilt, shame or blame. I also feel that the largest opportunities to help others are often right in front of you. They are within your immediate family and your extended family. Outside of that, they are in your neighborhood and community, then your town, state, country, etc.

Moving from the inner world to the outer world and back in again is like a torus (donut shape). Your inner energy guides you as you relate to the people and events around you. You incorporate your experiences into your life as you further cultivate your spirit and soul.

View Situations from Others’ Perspective

Viewing situations from other people’s perspectives often helps me to come to terms with challenging situations. I know that the best way to help others is from a position of love vs. a position of sadness, guilt, or blame, etc. When you notice that you’re upset about a person or situation, to the extent that you can, send the person or situation love rather than scorn, irritation, frustration, blame, or more.

You can ask that the person be embraced in loving white light and for them to make the highest and best choices that they can. Do the same for situations. Simultaneously, refrain from telling the story to everyone who will listen and from posting and sharing the negative story or news on social media. You give more power to a situation or story every time you share it … so skip repeating negative news (there’s more than enough of that going on!) and put your time and energy into framing things from a more positive perspective before sharing with others.

Use Social Media Responsibly

Just think of the progress we’d make if social media was used for social good and advancement of humanity, instead of complaints about what’s not working, expressing frustrations or sharing social gossip.

This month, I recommend that you take at least one step to accept things as they are, decide to move forward from where you are, and generally be a happier and more loving person toward yourself and everyone around you. If you catch yourself and make at least one adjustment this month, that’s progress!