Mother’s Day and Your Relationship Gua


Mother’s Day is Sunday, May 9. It’s a day to honor mothers, mothers-in-law, stepmothers, grandmothers, or any and all mothers in your life.

Are you aware that a deeper aspect of feng shui is the connection of your Relationship gua with your mother and the mothers in your life? Relationship issues with any mother in your life can create an energetic block that negatively influences your relationships with others … such as finding the right partner, your marriage, or romantic partnerships. I have seen this repeatedly throughout my practice. Clearing your inner space and outer environment of energy blocks can help you to find the right partner and have a healthy and satisfying relationship once you do.


The Relationship Gua and the Earth Trigram

The Relationship gua is the back-right corner of your home, all the rooms in your home, the back-right corner of your business or workspace, and the back-right corner of your yard or land. This area correlates with the Earth trigram in the I Ching, which represents the most yin and most feminine energy. The Earth trigram also represents “mother,” thus the deeper connection between the Relationship gua and mom.

The Earth trigram, comprised of three dashed lines, stacked one on top of the other.
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When balanced, Earth energy is very nurturing, caring, comfortable and stable. Mother Earth provides a solid foundation for us. Earth energy is also unifying. Mothers are often the ones keeping families unified and together.

When Earth energy is deficient, people are more concerned about survival and just trying to live every day. A lack of stability is prominent, and people might be closed off both spiritually and emotionally. Spending more time in nature is one way to ease your stress and to gain a healthy perspective. It lifts your spirits. You might get some ideas about how to move towards thriving vs. struggling to survive.

When Earth energy is in excess, feeling smothered, stifled, overprotected is common. Your thinking tends to be muddled, you might worry constantly, or you feel that you can’t do enough to please others. In the last situation, you get depleted by giving too much of yourself away to others. You rebalance yourself through active self-care and strengthening yourself from the inside out.


The Value of Forgiveness

If you recognize patterns of imbalanced Earth energy in yourself, doing effective self-care and adjusting your Relationship gua can help get you on a more stable path. Forgiveness is one of the first steps you can take. Forgive yourself and forgive others, particularly any “mom” with whom you resent or hold a grudge. Forgiveness is empowering and freeing. It doesn’t matter what happened. What matters is that you release all bitterness, dislike, envy, loathing, or similar feelings. They hold you back. When you do your inner work and release negative emotions, you advance on your healing path.


Recognizing Imbalances

In your home, imbalances in the Relationship gua show up as:

  • excessive clutter,
  • bathrooms or laundry rooms in this area,
  • doors leading to the outside,
  • plumbing or electric problems,
  • unhappy photos (or ones taken during a troubled time)
  • patterns of ones or threes (vs. two for a couple),
  • too many representations of Metal, Water or Wood elements

If relationships are problematic for you, audit the back-right corner area of your house and every room in your house (when overlaying a grid of nine, like a tic-tac-toe board). Take pictures and see what you notice. Look for imbalances showing up one or more times. This could be a bathroom or laundry room on one floor, clutter in a room on another floor, pictures of three people or photos and art of single women (if you’d like a male partner), or all men (if you’d like a female partner), all white rooms (too much metal), and much more. The patterns can be obvious or subtle. One of the dilemmas is that you typically don’t notice things in your space after thirty days. If you’ve been living in the same house, condo or apartment and you haven’t moved things around in a bit, you might not recognize the patterns. This is why taking photos is effective. You see things in photos that you pass over in person.

Contact Peg if you’d like help putting yourself on a mor effective path of releasing inner or outer blockages. A customized Emotional Freedom and Healing Release can help you let go of deeply help emotions that may be embedded in your cells. A feng shui consultation via phone or web can identify ways to rebalance and reenergize your space.